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at 8:24am (lb time), aj noticed my text message. it was a "good morning!" message from chaz (sent at 6:17am, baguio time) attached to a beautiful photo of himself.
aj: "mama, who is chaz?"
me: "friend ni mama...he's gay..."
aj: "i know... what's that? how did he become like that?..." (confused ang bata sa choice of friends ng nanay niya...)
me: (without thinking answered him) "well, he was born with a woman's mind and heart ... ang kaso may birdie siya..."
aj: "e si tito jude?"
me: "ganun din siya..." (i wanted to explain that there is beauty in diversity and i could further expound on statistics about the bell curve, but then he is only 7. the simpler the better for the both of us...)
aj: "si tito zenos? si tito bum?..." (ennumerating all of my gayfriends...)
i simply nodded.
aj: "how come you dont have guy friends? all of them are gay?... do not mention papa's friends, name me one..."
i wanted to name my guy friends but simply thought not to mention them. for fear that i'd get into a heated jealosy fight with my husband over my having associations with "boys" at 8:45 in the morning (lb time)... I wasn't in the mood. and i know him too well...
hay. i'm just trying to educate those i can have control over, and i can only influence so much. i hope, i do a good job of bringing up boys that think of the bigger picture, without them having to be born with a woman's brain or heart. but rather for me to be able to teach them about trust, empathy, confidence, responsibility, assertion without aggression among others.
Bravissima MAMABELZ! You can catch mamabelz at http://mamabelz.blogs.friendster.com/its_like_that/
Birdie talaga? LOLz.
Love you Mamabelz!
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